I’ve been meaning to write about working moms vs. stay at home moms for almost a year now. I watched a show where a stay-at-home mom had the audacity to say “if you don’t have time to raise your children (stay at home with them), maybe you shouldn’t have them.” Now I’m watching a show with married women telling single women they can’t be truly happy unless they’re married and have kids. I’ve also been in the middle of arguments about women taking their husband’s names and/or being called Ms. vs. Mrs.
Why can’t I make my choices and you make your choices and we can support one another? Why is the value of my decision based on your decision? I can’t feel good about being married and having a son unless you are also married and have children? If there is a “recipe” for happiness, I certainly haven’t seen it. And what makes one person happy is not the same as what makes the next person happy.
When women “burned their bra’s” and fought for the right to vote and equality I believe it was for ALL women to make a choice that was best for themselves, their families, and their kids. I don’t think it was just for “working mom’s,” “single women,” etc.
Can anyone say duh. I can’t believe we’re really still having this conversation. Last time I checked unhappiness didn’t discriminate. Unhappiness happens for women, men, married, single, parents, all religions, races, and ethnicities. I could go on and on! What are your choices? Do you think others should make the same choices?
My sister and I could not be more different in almost all the choices we have made (except we are both teachers) and we couldn’t love and respect each other any more. Right now Jess says she doesn’t want to get married and have kids. I will support her if she does or doesn’t.
The only problem I have is people who do things because others pressure them into it and people that judge others. Anyone who wants to tell me that I shouldn’t be a mom because I work can suck it. I’m a better mom because I work and I’m a better person because I’m a mom. And I like to be called Mrs. Joshua Hanke in formal situations. Those are my choices, the ones that make me happy. And those that don’t like my choices, try living your own life and being happy with YOUR choices.
It’s like people coining the term “pro-life.” That is implying that the other side is “anti-life.” Which does not classify me correctly. I am pro-choice and that implies the opposite is anti-choice (which I believe more correctly defines the other side). I am pro-choice about everything. You have the right to choose what you want for your life. It’s your right to make those choices and stand in the power of your choice. Let’s all try being supportive of one another instead of trying to cut each other down.