I have been thinking a lot about blogs. Why do I blog? If the only reason is to put more noise out there…well then it’s not really worth my time. For me, I need to have a clear intention and goals.
When I started my site it was when I was a week or so away from my due date with Finn and wanted him OUT OF ME. I did it to have something to do and also so my sister (who lives half a country away) could keep up to date with our happenings.
There are not very many things that I am good at in this world. There are even less things that I am good at AND proud of.
I am an excellent liar. When I was growing up I would lie just to lie. I would lie to entertain myself. I would lie to make my life seem interesting (I didn’t actually need help in that area). I would lie about things that didn’t matter. I would lie about things that DID matter. I would lie, even when it was more work to lie…just for shits and giggles. I lied because I felt that I got dealt a bad hand in life. I lied to prove that I was more intelligent than the person I was lying to. I was put in therapy and I lied to the shrink about everything as I chuckled to myself…aren’t they supposed to have a bullshit meter?
It wasn’t hard to keep my lies straight…if I got caught up, I would just lie my way out. Never felt guilty…until I did. When I asked myself who I wanted to be (if I told you how old I was when I did this…I would die of shame) I realized I had created a life that was a lie.
By the time I made this decision, lying was such a habit for me I had to consciously check myself. I was also very good at stealing and cheating too…but that’s another story for another day. Lying gave me a very good bullshit reader so if you’re lying to me, I’ll probably know it. If I lie to you…you won’t know it! 😉 But if I look you in the eye and make a promise, you can be sure I’ll keep my word.
When I started my site I didn’t have a plan. I just wrote. I didn’t think anyone besides my closest family and friends would come to read this silliness. I didn’t tell anyone about the site besides my sister and husband. Little by little it has evolved and taken on a life of its own.
Since I started writing to entertain myself so it never occurred to write anonymously.
See how I connected those 2 thoughts…didn’t see that coming…didjya?
Over sharing…I’s good at it!
About half of the blogs I read are anonymous. I DON’T consider writing under a pseudonym lying…just so we’re clear. I consider it smart. I lost my job, in no small part, because I was too public about who I was and what I believe.
But I also believe firmly in laziness and I just feel like keeping all that straight…way too much work for me! Also, if I couldn’t post pictures of all the cuteness that I call Finn, my site would be a lot less entertaining.
When my sister was here I was talking to her and Josh about my site. They thought I’m not consistent in my writing. Sometimes I’m bitchy and sarcastic (that’s their favorite, and you wonder why I’m the way I am), sometimes I post great (or amusing) things I find on my travels through the interwebs, and sometimes I write about what’s bothering me or been on my mind.
They both said when they come to my site, they never know what to expect.
What do you expect people?!? I’m DEEP! I like to think I’m like Oprah. You never know what you’re going to get…but it’s going to be good! 😉 I just write what’s on my mind.
Now comes your part…
Did you have a plan of where you wanted your blog to go or did you let it find its own way?
Do you write anonymously? Why or why not?
Did you imagine where your site would take you? Or are you as shocked as I am?
Do you go for one “voice” so your readers always know what to expect when they visit you? Do you prefer to visit sites where you always know what you’re going to get?