Dear Finn-3 Years & 5 Months

I was thinking about what I wanted to write to you and what came to mind instantly as Thanksgiving just passed.  It is a day to mindful of our blessing, most days we take far too much for granted.  We forget to be grateful for all we have because we are showered with blessings.

Of course, our greatest blessings are our friends and family.  Always have been, always will be.  There has never been a possession with greater worth, and there never will be.

We do have to take a moment every now and then to be grateful for having a roof over our head, food to nourish our bodies, and clothes on our backs.  It is easy to forget that although they are essential for life, they are not given freely and many struggle for them.  It is a privilege to not have to worry about how we are going to be able to provide a jacket for the cold winter coming or if we’re going to be able to feed you dinner tonight.

Being a mom often reminds me of things I don’t think of.

Before we began the long journey of teaching you how to go to the bathroom, I never sat around and thought about it.  I just went when I had to go.  Easy as pie, it feels as though I never had to learn that skill.  There are so many things that we have to teach you that I never thought about.  Zipping zippers, pulling on socks, and being able to make rice stay on your fork are all things that need to be taught, they don’t come naturally.

It certainly gives me an entirely new perspective on the world.  It also makes me think of all the kids I taught and after the 40th time, they still couldn’t spell their last name.  Each of these life skills must be taught and carefully practiced or they won’t be there when you need them.  Seeing things from your perspective has turned my perspective on its head and I love when that happens!

Another way you surprise me is by how generous you are.  I worried about this often and you going to daycare really helped, but you want to share everything.  Even if it means you only get a little bit or sometimes none at all.  As an only child (which makes the monster come out every once and awhile), it’s an essential skill to have.  I have learned so much from you about how I can be a better person.

We were driving in the car the other day and I had just finished a conversation with Jo and Jo and I told her I loved her.  You asked why I said that.  It made me think about how important it is to say that to the people that you love.  I have made sure to include that in my routine with you each day.  I always tell you I love you when we drop you off in the mornings and before bed and then I do it a million times in between.

It’s comes naturally for me to say that to those that I love.  However, it also reminds me that different people say is in different ways.  It may be in the flowers they pick for you, the cake they bake for you, making sure you paid your phone bill, or even explaining how to use a backpack.  I hope you hear they’re saying I love you in different ways.  There are as many different ways to say those 3 words as there are people in this world.

I say it when I give you chap stick for your dry lips, fold your laundry, spread peanut butter on bread for a sandwich, and even as I buckle you into your car seat.  I will say it to you in the morning, before bed, and even put notes in your lunch box so your friends have something to tease you about.  Because even if I say it 14 million ways and show it in 8 billion, you still won’t know the love I hold for you in my heart.

Love,

Mama
Finn-Nov 2011

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2 Responses to Dear Finn-3 Years & 5 Months

  1. Denise says:

    Oooooooohhh, my favorite posts! It’s so true, Kate, that we have to show the ones who really matter how much we love them! And it’s so true that we can say this in many different ways! As well as we should be able to recognize when someone tells us “I love you” through attitudes, not only words… we have different ways to say this, as you pointed out!
    Also nice what you said, a house/flat, food and bills paid are blessings, a privilege that many forget to be thankful for.
    Closing zippers and eating with a fork, yes, we were all taught that!!!! :) But we take all for granted!
    Finn knows, Kate, he knows how much you love him! I am sure of that! And for sure he loves you too!!!!!!!!
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  2. maggie says:

    this was beautiful, Kate :) <3
    I don't think I say it enough, but for me the actions are more important. I say I love you with my baking :) And with knitting. And just by being. My mum said it all the time, and made us say it no matter what, and it got to the point that the words don't always hold a lot of meaning for me. Though, the more I mean it, the less I'm able to say it… so I bake more. 😉
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